Connect your Lovense toy to your Red Light Center account and let another user control it in real time during a sex scene.
Note: Lovense toys in Red Light Center are in Beta. Contact Red Light Center Support if you encounter any issues.
What you need
- The Red Light Center client for Mac. Windows support will be released in late 2026.
- A Lovense toy (see supported devices below).
- The Lovense Remote app on your phone, with your toy connected in the app.
Supported devices
These Lovense toys can be controlled in Red Light Center:
- Ambi
- Calor
- Diamo
- Dolce
- Domi
- Edge
- Ferri
- Gush
- Hush
- Lush
- Max (vibration only; the air pump can’t be controlled yet)
- Nora (vibration only; rotation can’t be controlled yet)
Other Lovense toys show “not yet supported” in the My toys window and can’t be controlled yet.
Where to find the controls
While you’re in a sex scene, the sex actions panel has two buttons:
- My toys: your own toys. Pair a toy, choose who may control it, and stop everything.
- Partner’s toys: controls for your partner’s toy, once they’ve allowed you.
Pair your toy with your account
You only need to do this once. Your toy stays paired until you disconnect it.
- Start a sex scene, then click My toys in the sex actions panel.
- Click Connect Lovense. A QR code appears.
- Open Lovense Remote on your phone and scan the code. If you can’t scan it, use the code shown under Or enter code:.
- Wait a moment. Your toy appears in the window once the app connects (this can take up to 30 seconds), and its status changes to online.
Tip: you can also pair before a scene by typing /toys in chat, which opens the same window.
Let your partner control your toy
Your partner can only control your toy during a sex scene with you, and only if you allow it.
- Start a sex scene with your partner as you normally would.
- If your toy is online, you’ll be asked: “Allow [partner] to control your [toy]?”
- Click Allow to give your partner control.
- Click Not now to keep control to yourself. You won’t be asked again about that partner for the rest of your session.
- Changed your mind later in the scene? Click My toys and then Allow current partner.
When the scene ends, your partner’s control ends. You’ll be asked again the next time you start a scene together.
Control your partner’s toy
If your partner has allowed you, the Partner’s toy panel opens during the scene. You can also open it with Partner’s toysin the sex actions panel.
- Slider: sets the intensity, from 0 to 20. Moving it to 0 stops the toy.
- Presets: Pulse, Wave, Fireworks and Earthquake play a pattern.
- Stop: stops the toy right away.
- If your partner has more than one toy, click the toy’s name to switch between them.
Your partner can set a limit on how strong you can go. If they do, the slider stops at their limit.
Staying in control of your own toy
Click My toys in the sex actions panel to see every toy you’ve paired and who can control it.
| Option | What it does |
|---|---|
| Limit slider | Sets the strongest your toy can go for your partner. Lowering it takes effect right away. |
| Mute | Your partner keeps access but can’t make the toy do anything. Click Unmute to give it back. |
| Remove | Takes control away from your partner. |
| Allow current partner | Gives control to the partner in your current scene. |
| Stop all | Stops every toy immediately and removes everyone’s control at once. |
If you pair more than one toy, choose which one your partner controls: select a toy marked “Not active” to make it the active one.
Your toy only responds while it’s online. Turning off Bluetooth, fully quitting the Lovense Remote app, or switching off the toy cuts control immediately.